Surviving the Loss of Suicide (Guest Post)

Today, we have a guest post from Paul Elderkin, who was brave enough to share his story of surviving after a loved one died by suicide. Paul shared this story via social media and has kindly allowed me to repost it here. 

When someone dies by suicide there are many impacts for the survivors. The one story we’ll never fully understand is the story of those who took their life. This is my story, as a survivor of losing a loved one to suicide.
On the 2nd December, 2019, I lost my partner, someone I wanted to see experience all of the joys in life, someone who had so much to live for. The trauma has put me through a rollercoaster of guilt, pain, sadness, having feelings within my heart and mind that want to send me deep into depression. Losing someone without being able to say goodbye, without fully understanding what was going on, is something I’ve had to come to terms with, and it has not been easy. Losing someone who still had so much life to live for herself causes a lot of pain.
It is not easy. Days where finding the strength to get up off the floor do happen; where you don’t want to talk to anyone, seem to be every other day; where you don’t want to face life; where you think about ways out. Sleepless nights. Struggling to close your eyes because of the trauma. Not being able to sleep by yourself. Spending time alone doing the simplest of activities you would normally do (even taking a shower), all become challenging and scary.
It’s not easy and it’s not easy to get back on with life, but you can, support is there, hope is there. Finding feelings of hope was something I never thought I’d be able to feel again.
However bad you’re feeling, however much pain you’re going through, please seek support. Remember it is ok to feel exactly how you’re feeling, just know that feelings will pass and you can continue living.
To everyone out there who is struggling, you’re more loved than you will ever know, you’re not a burden, you’re the most perfect life, a life that all of those around you want to see flourish ⭐️
Stay strong, stay brave, stay open with friends and family, keep that connection. Stand up for it, stand up for your life, it’s a beautiful thing to live!
Thank you to my friends, family, professionals, and @ifyoucareshare for being there for me when I needed it ❤️

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If you would like to share a guest post on this blog, you can contact me in the comment section below, through the contact link above, or by emailing me And thanks for reading. 

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